I know I F#$Ked up, but will you marry me now?

So I'm going to make this short.  i was in a relationship for 2 years with someone who put me through hell.  i am now in a new relationship with someone that I can honestly say i hope I am with for the rest of my life.  I have known her for 10 years and my love for her is undeniable and limitless.

My question for the day is what makes your ex lovers feel that they can hurt you and be a complete dick and turn around and present a ring to you like that makes it all better.  I literally have an ex who i have not been cool with for a year asking me to marry her because now she is ready.........fuck you dude!  Now you are ready after you had me looking like boo boo the fool for 2 years while you went all around town being an ass, sleeping with whoever, living in my house, not contributing to shyt.  Now all of a sudden you are ready.  now that i made it possible for you to stand on your own two feet.


I'm over it.  Just wanted to vent today guys............

Ebonics is the black dialect....beware you may be offended

I have taken courses at Michigan State University and have had to use books that peg Ebonics as the black dialect.  It makes me so upset that in 2011 my people are still looked at as ignorant in such a manner that society has pegged Ebonics.....BROKEN ENGLISH as the black dialect!  How demeaning!  I pay 25k a year to attend a big 10 university, one where i was accepted just the same as my white or non-African-American counterparts.  And to make matters worse if you google Ebonics every definition says the same thing......it's a "slave language."  Sadly, I think Ebonics is a term for a slang language.  EVERY RACE uses slang!!!  It is NOT an ignorant black language, but slang terminology that any and every culture uses at some point.  America please stop stereotyping black people as ignorant!  All of us are not!!!  

Also I have an article that i have posted before that i found interesting that kind of relates to this......read if you like.

The New Racism- The progress of Blacks in America is marginal and involves a relatively small and limited number of celebrities, usually in the genre of sports and entertainment, and a shrinking Black middle class that owes it's sustenance and survival to the adoption of Western/Caucasian values and detachment, denial and indifference to the vast ocean of Black suffering in the world. This paradigm gives many the delusion of Black advancement. They remember when black were legally segregated in many areas of American life and they think that a limited social integration is synonymous with progress.

Moreover, the illusion of an America that has somehow redeemed itself of it's racist tendencies acts as a blinder to the reality of racism that is hiding in plain sight. This deception is accomplished because many mistakenly assume that racism consist solely of hostile biases and prejudices held by one group against another although this view does have elements of truth, it does not explain what racism is at its core. Racism is a group-based contest or struggle in which one group competes to control wealth and valuable resources at the expense of another group.

The primary reason millions of Blacks were kidnapped from Africa and forced to labor uncompensated for centuries was not because they had different racial or physical characteristics, but because they were idealized as the perfect human cargo to build wealth and power through mental acuity as well as physical prowess.

With the advent of the industrial revolution and the creation of larger and more sophisticated machines, it was determined that they were no longer needed to perform the back-breaking work they had done for centuries. Thus, the institution of chattel slavery was cast aside with great congratulation and fanfare, and replaced with a new form of exploitive servitude in the south- mining and sharecropping- and industrialized system of oppression in the north that consisted of mills and factories. This the economic exploitation of Blacks continued under a new guise along with social marginalization. In fact, economic and social status have long served as a gauge to determine the true condition of Blacks in America. And this standard is as relevant today as it ever was.

Recently the Urban League released its annual report about the state of Blacks in America and the statistics reveal a devastating picture of Black poverty, unemployment, lack of health care, crime and incarceration rates, in virtually every area and category of life in America, Black (as a group) are meandering at the bottom of the barrel. This is no accident. The solution is to rely on our own skill, talent, and God-given resources. To, in effect cast down our buckets where we are and to cast aside the old habit of asking others what we could and should be doing for ourselves.

BY STEVEN MALIK SHELTON (Human Rights Advocate)

Thirsty Skanks

Question:  How do you respond to a "bestfriend" that oversteps his/her boundaries with your boy/girlfriend?

This is a question that runs through my mind a lot because i have had to deal with it.  I hate when you are in a relationship with someone and their friends do not know their place.  I understand that friendships are important, but once your friend gets in a relationship  you MUST RESPECT that!  That means stop the flirty chatting, stop with so many "I love you's", stop the late night after hour calling....It's disrespectful.  And stop trying to make it seem like the GIRLFRIEND is being irrational because she is not going to stand for you being disrespectful to her or the relationship!  Stop being a SKANK and be a friend, which is what you claim to be anyways.  I'd even feel better if you just came out and said i want to fuck your girlfriend and that is why i act the way I do.  At least you'd be honest about the sh*t.  I mean, I'd still kick your ass, but I'd respect your honesty.  All I'm saying is people if you are a friend then know your place.  The girlfriend/boyfriend comes FIRST and trying to come between that is selfish, whorish, ignorant, and asinine, so please have a seat and think before you act.......you might also want to try going out on a date because obviously the person you want is TAKEN.

People always want what they can't have, but BITCH have some class......No, SERIOUSLY.....have some class!

Um yea so let's get over the 3D movies dude

So I was watching TV today and a commercial came on advertising for a new movie that was coming out....it looked so cool....then it said "COMING SOON IN 3D".......WTF!!!  Why does everything all of a sudden have to be in 3D?  I hate wearing those stupid, uncomfortable glasses and having to pay $2 more to see a movie that is only in quality 3D if you are sitting in the first 3 rows!  Please stop the madness and make movies like they used to in regular ass 2D.  Thanx

Pregnancy is sooooo cool! Why would I get an education?

So I know this is going to piss a bunch of people off, but hey that is what I am here for!  I am so fucking sick of girls in high school or in college getting pregnant and walking around like the shyt is cool!  You have just ruined your life!!!!  Hello!!!  Does anybody hear me out there?  Babies are not accessories and it is not cute to be 17/18 and missing out on your college experience and chance for a better life because you couldn't keep your legs closed long enough to watch a 30-sec commercial!  And for those of you who are already in college....it is hard enough trying to work and get an education to one day make something of yourself, why go and add a baby to the mix?  Now the university will not be liable for you and your baby so you have to move back home with your parents or parent, hope that they will help to take care of you and your child or you are just stuck most of you with some dude who promised you the world and 5 min later called you and hoe and said that is not his seed.  Kudos for those of you who actually get through this and survive against the odds, but for the rest of you honestly I feel very little sympathy.  

Women quit allowing these men to sweet talk you out of your clothes.   I know it's hard when you feel lonely and the pressures of mass media making you feel very unpretty, but in the same token you are worth so much more than 10 min with some man who probably has no fucking clue what he is doing.  If he were a real man than he would show you love beyond the physical and help you to understand that love and care is something that needs to be fulfilled mentally and emotionally.  The physical part actually comes last.  

Also women quit posting preggo pics of yourself on these websites like you are just so proud of what you have done.  And stop getting upset when people are not happy for you.  They are probably sad for you like they should be.  Be the WOMAN you profess to be.  Don't be the child who is lost, uneducated, pregnant and not living to their full potential because you made a life altering mistake.  Be smart and know that what is really COOL is having an education, making it possible for yourself to start a career and at that point start a family that you will be able to support and provide for. 

Why are we as women and dare I say it BLACK women so consumed with the idea of having a man and being a "baby mama" that we don't care who we give our bodies to nor who we trust with our hearts?  I know society has beat you down and the very men who you birthed into this world treat you like you are less than, but you are a beautiful woman and you need to show the world that we are more than hips and thighs and loud mouth, angry, women, not worth a superior equal.  You are worth it.....WORK ON YOU then find HIM.....he is out there.....you just need to recognize what is important first and that is you, your education and career.  The rest will fall into place.....Don't rush it.  If you are a success then you will attract that type of person.

Profs that have a thick accent

So as I sit in class daily I am irritated by the fact that such an accredited university can hire so many international professors and not require them to  master the English language before allowing them to teach PAYING American students!!!!  WTF!!!  So I have to come into my $1700 class everyday and wreck my brain trying to decipher what the fuck is being said to me.  And to make things more frustrating each powerpoint or written document that is given to me is typed exactly like the prof speaks so it is also very annoying!!!  Here we are in a recession and I am spending my hard earned money on top of drowning in debt to receive this top notch education and get a good job and all you have to do to become a university professor is totally fuck up the English language, meaning barely coming close and be a certified teacher from some whacked out country or town that no one even knows about.  UGH!!!!  and if this blog was too much for you.........don't read my fucking blogs!!!!

PEACE

Customers reckless ass mouths

So as we all know I work in retail.  I know that it is the holiday and I'm going to have to deal with attitudes when something doesn't ring up as a customer thinks it should or people can't make a return when they think they should be able to, but these damn customers are just ridiculous and frankly their reckless ass mouths make me want to slap the dog shyt out of them!

To make my point let me give you an example....Today I'm ringing a lady up and she brings me a bag of old clothes telling me they were a gift and that she wants to exchange them for new items.  I ask her if she had a receipt and she said no.  I then explained to her that we cannot do returns OR exchanges without receipts and that it is policy.  She then pulls out a receipt and begins telling me how she forgot that when she paid for it that she put the receipt in her purse......PAUSE.....why did you just tell me they were a gift and the person who gave it to you didn't give you a receipt when all along you knew that was a lie and you paid for them yourself?  Ugh!!!  anyways moving on.....then I scan the receipt and it's way past the 90 days that you have to return items so we are back at square one....long story short all i could do for her was a gift certificate in the mail for the items at whatever price they rang up for today which was a grand total of $8.94.......well of course she was pissed and felt the need to yell at me and tell her friend who was next to her very loudly might i add that she was gonna finish buying her things today and never shop here again!

I hate when people say that so damn loud like they are trying to hurt my feelings!!!  I don't give a fuck if you ever shop here again and as a matter of fact how about I'm glad I won't have to see your stupid ass ever again!!!  Whether you come back or not my paycheck still comes on the same day every other week so please take your shyt and your reckless ass mouth and get the fuck outta my store......Thanks and have a good day!!!!